How many times have you heard someone say, ” She is just a stay at home mom.” ? My mom was a stay at home. It was not something she wanted to do. She always told me about how she would be putting her education to use if she hadn’t married my dad. She wanted to do more and she did. She home schooled us. However she still thought of herself as just a ‘stay at home mom’. I don’t think she gave herself enough credit for home schooling 3 kids in a foreign country.
I always felt that my mom wanted to do more. I know she loved us but we knew she did not feel satisfied with her life. Growing up I never wanted to be like my mom – a stay at home mom. Partly it was because I felt my mom was unhappy and partly it was because a part of me felt that she resented us for taking over her life. She was interested in history and arts and has a masters degree. I think she felt that she wasted it. She wanted to be more than my mother.
If I could say one thing to my mother- I would say- Thank you- You taught me to read and write. You were a teacher. You were a nurse. You were a nutritionist. You were always more than a mother.