Letter to J: Thank you for the hurtful comment 

Recently I had an unsettling comment made on a post of mine. The first time I saw it my heart sank and I felt terrible for the rest of the day. I felt like I was back in high school and a mean girl called me fat. I don’t mind if someone does not agree with what I write about and has an opinion about it. But let’s have a discussion like adults. This was not an opinion. This was meant to be a stab. This was meant to break me.

Initially I didn’t know how to deal with this. I contemplated not writing the blog. But then I thought about my daughter and how would I advice her to handle bullying. I would tell her to handle it with kindness, not anger. I don’t want her to give up because one person doesn’t like her work. So I decided to write this person a letter.

Dear J

Thank you for reading my blog. The comment you made was very hurtful. I try very hard to write meaningful content. I am a fairly new blogger and I started writing while going through PPD, when my baby was born. Initially I did not share it because I did not want to be judged and I was scared to have comments like yours. 

My blog is my safe place. It is where I share details of my life, and my family. I write about things that are important to me, and share tips and tricks that work for me. And I get to connect with people from all over the world that are going through similar situations. Is each piece a masterpiece? No I admit it is not. But I am not aiming for perfection. Because perfection is not real. I am working on being the best of me. 

I want you to know that your hurtful comment affected me deeply. But I still want to believe in the good in people. And perhaps you were having a bad day. And sometimes it makes you feel better when someone else feels worse. I forgive you. I hope that you read this and know that your comment makes me strive to work harder, not give up. And for that I want to thank you. 

Take care J.

Husna Thompson aka The Accidental Mommy

2 thoughts on “Letter to J: Thank you for the hurtful comment 

  1. Wow I can’t believe someone left you a mean comment like that! It surprises me that people feel the need to say mean things versus just keep their ideas in their head knowing that they have the capability of hurting other people. Sadly that is the internet these days.. just people hurling mean comments without thinking about the person on the other side, and so much judging! I had someone comment on one of my recipes telling me it was in bad taste. I was quite surprise that a silly recipe name of all things offended someone, and even explained to her that I put no thought into it, it was just a term people use and it wasn’t political or pointed… just a name. It made me feel bad to the point that I told my husband I was going to take the post down and he said to not think twice about it… of course you can’t please everyone on the internet, plus it is MY blog and I have the right to say what I want. If she didn’t like it, she totally has the ability to unfollow me, or simply not read it! Don’t let it get you down and just keep doing what you are doing. There are mean people in the world and that isn’t your fault. They invented the delete and block buttons for a reason 🙂 Take care ❤


    1. Thank you for your support and kind words. I was surprised as well when I saw the comment. It takes a lot of work to put out blog posts. I am glad that you are continuing to write and did not take the post down. And you are exactly right! It is YOUR blog, you can write whatever you want. Don’t let someone else dictate that and have power over you. I love reading your wine reviews. 🙂 And I see that you too are a big fun of seared Ahi Tuna! 🙂


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