Letter to my daughter: You are 2.5 years old!

Dear Zara

Today you are 2.5 years old! Where did the time go? One minute you were a tiny six pound bundle they placed on my chest and the next thing I know you are singing ‘Bingo’ and running away from me.

The first couple of months of being your mother was tough. My life had changed and I had no control over anything and it was terrifying. I felt alone, but I was never alone, because you were with me. Those times were dark and hazy and I wrote somethings that I feel guilty for but I understand what I was feeling better now.

It wasn’t that I did not want to be a mother, I felt I was incapable of being a mother to you. I have a tumultuous relationship with my own mother and I did not want to follow in her footsteps and disappoint you.

You are my miracle. You opened my heart to a love that is so deep and selfless, that it swallows you whole. Zara, you gave my life a purpose that I thought I would never have.

I am so proud of the little person you are becoming. You are always concerned about papa puggles (our dog) and Cj (our cat). I can see that you have a love of animals. You love to sing and dance and you like to put on little shows for us. You love your little friends and you have a little ‘boy’ friend- baby Nathan. 🙂

You are my whole world Zara and every time you hit a milestone, I am proud and sad at the same time. I am sad because soon you will lose your ‘baby face’ and I miss that face so much! But I know that’s what this parenthood journey is all about.

In my mind’s eye you will always be that little six pound bundle that came screaming into this world and latched on to me. I love you forever my baby Zaza.

Love,

Momma

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Not just another New Year’s Resolution : 2018 Positive Affirmations

New Year’s Eve is here! I can’t believe how fast this year has flown by. At the end of the year instead of making New Year’s resolutions, I like to reflect on the past year and create positive affirmations for the new year. Positive affirmation, is starting the new year with positive energy, and if you are a fan of the book, ‘The Secret’, you know what I mean.

Reflection on the past year

In the beginning of 2017, I focused all my energy on being the best of me, at work, as a mother and in life. Halfway throughout the year I realized that this is a big ask and I had to reprioritize. I had to slow down and take some breaks. I realized that to be the best of me I had to refocus my energy on what was the most important to me: Zara, my mental health and my family.

Regardless I do feel that 2017 has been very good to me. One of the biggest highlights for me was sharing this blog with everyone. I was not sure what to expect and literally had butterflies when I hit the share button on January 1st 2017. The response over the year has been very positive and I have learnt so much ( with so much more to learn!). To be selected as one of the Top 30 Vancouver Mom bloggers for 2017 was the cherry on top! It is an honor to be part of such a talented group of ladies. These mommas are humble, creative and supportive, and I am constantly learning from them. I am in awe to belong to this momma tribe.

So where do I go from here…

I don’t have a straight forward answer for this. I am going to continue writing and hopefully will partner with other bloggers and brands.

My positive affirmations for 2018 is to focus on opening my mind and to learn:

  • I will learn from my talented momma blogger friends.

  • I will learn from reading and practicing.

  • I will learn to take better pictures (hubby just gifted me a camera for Christmas! ).

  • I will learn who I am, and who I want to be. It is easy to hide behind social media and pretend to have a perfect life, but that’s not me and that’s not my blog.

  • I will not let self doubt creep in and stop me from learning and growing.

I want to thank everyone that is following me on this journey, because without your support I wouldn’t be here. What are your positive affirmations for 2018?

Also, what would you like to see more of on the blog? More recipes? More family friendly activities/venues? Tips? Letters? I would love to hear from you.

Happy New Year and see you in 2018!

Ps- Follow me on Instagram @husna_theaccidentalmommy and on Twitter @husnathompson1

5 Easy Meal Planning Tips to keep you on track during the Holidays

Christmas is right around the corner and that means adding activities to your already busy life. Between christmas parties, christmas shopping and visits to Santa, the one thing that can easily fall off the band wagon is MEAL PLANNING.

At 5 pm when you get home from a long day at work and your kid is chasing the dog who is chasing the cat, your husband, turns around and asks you the dreaded question: What’s for dinner?! Your brain is tired, overwhelmed and does not want to think at this point. As a mom my brain is full and in overdrive all the time. Meal planning sounds like another thing I have to add to my never ending to do list. Today I am going to share a couple of tips that have worked for me to make meal planning simpler.

1. Buy pre cut Veggies: Every time I think of meal planning, I also think of meal prepping. I am a big fan of meal prepping and I know it can make life easier during the week. But, what I am not a fan of is spending two to three hours on a Sunday cooking or cutting veggies. So here is my first tip! Buy pre cut, pre washed veggies. Or frozen veggies. Just do it and you will thank me for the time you save. Yes it is more money but to me that time saving is worth every penny.

2. Slow cooker meals. I do this atleast once a week. I have a 4.5 quart slow cooker so makes a big portion and I can use leftovers for lunches during the week. My go to website for slow cooker recipes is Delish.

3. Theme days: During the week I like to have ‘theme days. Thursday’s in our house are ‘breakfast for dinner night’ and Fridays are ‘Pizza night’. No more brain power used, deciding ‘What to make for dinner’!

4. 2 meals in one: If I am going to do any meal prep cooking I need it to last more than one meal!! So if I am making chicken fajita mix, I am going to make Fajitas on Monday and on Tuesday I am going to add it to pasta with sauce or have it over rice with guacamole and yogurt.

5. Precooked meals– I like to keep these on hand for those days when life hits you like a brick and you just want to put something in the oven. I try to have a couple of frozen lasagnas, meatballs, chicken pot pies on hand. Costco has a great selection at reasonable prices. It will be cheaper than takeout!

Do you meal plan or meal prep? What are your go to tips? I would love to hear how you make meal planning easier. Also if you incorporate any of these tips, please let me know if this worked for you! Happy meal planning mommas!

What I am thankful for this Thanksgiving…

Thanksgiving is an interesting holiday to me. I did not grow up with it and was introduced to it when I moved to Canada. Younger me never really paid much attention to it especially as my family did not celebrate it. As I got older, Thanksgiving was all about turkey and pumpkin pie with friends. 


Now that I am a mother and in my late 30s, I am intrigued by what the real significance of this holiday is. I find the concept of ‘giving thanks’ and ‘counting your blessings’ so very important now. I want to teach my daughter the meaning behind this holiday. So I have compiled a list of what I am thankful for this Thanksgiving:

1.  I am thankful for this country I live in. 
My parents could have moved anywhere in the world. I was a child so I did not have a say in where we were going to live. I am thankful that we came to Canada. With everything happening in the world recently, natural disasters and shooting rampages, I am thankful that I live in a country where this is not the norm. Canada is far from perfect, but I feel safe here. I don’t worry about being shot at while I am at concert or being stranded during a natural disaster. 

I am thankful I get to raise my daughter in this country.


2. My family

Families are not perfect. Every family has its ups and downs. I may not have a great relationship with my parents, but I am thankful for the strong relationships I do have with other members of my family: my brothers, my sister in laws and my friends.

I never thought I would meet and marry a man like my husband. We have had our ups and downs but in the end it has strengthened our relationship. 

I never thought I would become a mother. But I am so very thankful for the baby girl that has given me the privilege of being her momma. I get to wake up everyday to this beautiful smiling face, who thinks I am her whole world. I am thankful for the awe in my daughter’s eyes.

3. Roof over my head and food in my belly

I usually take this for granted. But there are so many people in this world that don’t have this. We live in one of the most expensive cities in the world and I am grateful that my family and I have a place to call home. I am grateful that we have the ability to buy the food we want, without thinking too much about it. 

So this thanksgiving, as we are drinking our wine, eating our turkey, stuffing and mashed potatoes, take some time to reflect, and be grateful. 

What are you thankful for this Thanksgiving? 

Bambini’s’ Playroom: The new kids on the block

The rain is back in Vancouver and it looks like it is hear to stay. My daughter is very high energy and on our days off together, I am always looking for places we can go, where she can explore, play and learn. In the summer there are a lot of options outside. In the fall/winter I am on the hunt for indoor play areas, preferably one near a coffee shop!

There is a new indoor play room that has recently opened its doors on Main Street called Bambini’s Playroom. This is there opening week and right now admission is free. Zara and I visited Bambini’s Playroom today and here is our review. 

First Impressions: We were greeted at the door by one of the owners, Amy. Amy is a mom of two, with 10 years of childcare experience. She took time to talk to every parent and child walking in the door.  She has a positive energy about her and you can tell that this is her passion project. 

The space: The space is fairly spacious and very welcoming. There is an arts table set up with paint and paper for kids to use. There is another table set up with alphabets  and a train/track set. The current theme of the room is ‘Camping’ and they have a tent with felt campfire logs set up for the kids to explore. Amy explained to me that the theme will change based on seasons. They are working on a fall season set up next. The space is also available for rent for birthday parties. 

How it works: The Playroom is designed for ages 0 to 5 years. Kids are welcome to explore, play and learn with parent/adult participation.  Amy, the owner engages with kids and helps them play and learn. Amy also runs a circle time for the last 20 mins before closing. 

Hours: Currently the hours are Monday to Friday 9:30 am to 11:30 am and 2 pm to 4 pm. Sat 9am to 11 am( this Sat, Sept 30 is 10 am to 12pm)

Fees: As this is their opening week, all admissions are at no charge. Tomorrow is the last day. Generally fees are $12 per drop in. Or you can get a pass for 10 sessions for $90. Birthday rental prices are available on their Facebook page. 

Verdict: I love supporting local businesses. Bambini’s is a one of a kind play room for this area. It is a good respite from the rainy weather and I felt that my daughter was fairly interested in the toys and activities. She actually did not want to leave. I also like the fact that there is a caregiver on the floor, engaging with the children. The circle time was awesome and had the children pretty focused. 

I like that there is a age restriction. I have found some of other play areas that I have been to, that I always have to watch out for Zara to not be rail roaded by an older child.

My favorite thing about Bambini’s Playroom is Amy, the owner. She has a way with kids and the parents. She makes you feel right at home. I will definitely be back! 

And yes there is a Matchstick coffee pretty close by for us mommas who need the caffeine fix. 🙂

The next couple of weeks are going to be pretty rainy. So go ahead and visit Bambini’s Playroom on 4879 Main St. And don’t forget to take advantage of tomorrow, Saturday Sept 30th’s, free admission. Have a fun weekend!

Please note this is not a sponsored post. I am not paid by or affiliated with Bambini’s Playroom. All opinions in this post are based on my personal experience. However, Amy is aware that I will be writing this piece, so feel free to comment and share your experience, suggestions and I will pass them along to her. 

F**k the Chores Mommas

Some of you might have noticed that I have not been writing as often as I usually do. August and most of September has been very busy for our family. I have also not been feeling like myself lately. My energy levels have been low and I was struggling to get out of bed every morning. So in August, I took a step back and realized that I needed to give myself some time to breathe. I also admitted to myself that I need help. Life is too short to feel miserable and overwhelmed everyday. So I am slowing down a little and I decided to do less and be OK with it: 

  •  It’s ok if I don’t make my husbands lunch everyday. He is an adult and can prepare his own lunch. 
  • It’s ok if we have cheese and crackers for dinner (with wine of course), instead of my elaborate homemade meals. 
  • It’s ok to have takeout for dinner. 
  • It’s ok if every day and weekend is not perfectly planned. 
  • It’s ok if the laundry is not folded and still in the dryer. 
  • It’s ok to ask my husband to help me. He is my partner in this life and I don’t have to do this alone. 

It has always been tough for me to admit that I need help and even tougher to ask for help. But when your body is trying to tell you something, you need to listen. As moms we are always ‘on’. You always have an ongoing list in your head of things to to do. 

Recently I read an article that moms work an average of 98 hours a week! That is equivalent to more than 2 full time jobs

No wonder we are tired and exhausted. We carry the weight of the world with us and that is exhausting. So I have decided to focus all my energy on what is really important: my daughter Zara. She is growing up fast and if I am bogged down with laundry, lunches, and chores I am going to miss out on this time with her. 

So I am leaving the dishes in the sink, the clothes in dryer, ordering takeout and snuggling my baby for as long as I can. Screw the chores mommas! And enjoy your PSL! Happy Friday. 

Happy birthday Zara! Letter to my daughter on her 2nd birthday…

Dear Zara

Happy birthday my dear baby girl! You are 2 years old today. 2 years ago today at 10pm you came screaming into this world and changed my life forever. I still remember the day you were born as if it was yesterday. I was tired and scared and in so much pain. But I remember the exact moment I heard your cry for the first time and the sense of relief and awe that I felt when they put you on my chest. You were finally here!!

The past 2 years have flown by. You are my big girl now. You tell me every day ‘ I am not a baby’. And it makes me sad to hear you say that because I actually miss the ‘baby’ years. 

You are such a smart, caring and kind little person. I am so proud of the person you are becoming. You are stubborn (like your momma), but laid back like your Dada. You can count to 10 and sing your abcs. Your favourite nursery rhyme is Humpty Dumpty. You love Peppa pig and ever since you discovered Peppa, you call us Mummy and Daddy. You don’t like to see anyone get hurt and always ask ‘Are you ok?’. You love your papa Puggles the dog and kitty. I am amazed at how well you can communicate. You surprise me with your energy and positivity. Your laughter makes my heart explode with happiness. 

I wish time would slow down a little. It doesn’t matter how much time I spend with you, it is never enough. It hurts me deeply when you hold on to me in the morning and don’t want me to go. I want you to know that everything I do is for you to have a better life. It’s for you to have opportunities and choices. Everyday I can’t wait to come home to you. 

I want you to know that being your mommy is the greatest accomplishment of my life. I love you with all my heart and more. I can’t wait to see what the future holds for you. 

Love 

Mommy aka Momma 

Baby Zara at 4 days old

Zara at 1 years old


Zara Now (week before turning 2)