The Handmaid’s Tale: Why I am watching and you should too.

There are a couple of Tv shows that I have been watching religiously lately.

One in particular is the The Handmaid’s Tale. It is based on a book by Margaret Atwood and talks about a dystopian future where religion has taken over and women’s rights have been stripped. Women are not allowed to work or have bank accounts. Most women are barren. The very few that can produce children are enslaved and treated like cattle, their only purpose to bear children for their masters.

Sounds pretty crazy right? You think this can’t ever happen. Funny enough this book was written in 1985 by Margret Atwood and for a period of time it was banned.

Why am I talking about this tv show? Well it hits home for me. I come from a country that treats women like second class citizens.  I lived in a country where women were not allowed to leave their house without a male family member. Women were not allowed to drive. Women could work, but only in certain professions. Women were told to cover themselves, so as not to tempt the men. I was born into this and felt it was normal.

Now that I have a daughter, I am on hyper alert when it comes to gender inequality. I vowed to myself to never take my daughter to a country that looks down upon women. But I can’t stop things from happening in our own backyard. Yes, we live in a country that has given women rights. Women can work, drive, own property. But in the back of my mind I can’t stop thinking about The Handmaids Tale and what’s happening across the border.

I don’t particularly consider myself a feminist but the recent #metoo movement has brought a lot of truths to light. Women have been belittled, abused, and used for centuries. Yet we watch a show like The Handmaid’s tale and think of it as fiction. Is it fiction?

Parents of girls, speak up, unite, make this world a better place for our daughters!

Have you watched this show? What did you think?

This is not a sponsored post. All opinions expressed in this post are mine.

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3 Important Lessons I have Learned as a Mother

Motherhood has drastically altered my life, my goals and my aspirations. Pre baby Husna worried about what to wear, where to eat, and where to go on vacation. Post-baby Husna, worries about all that and a thousand things more.

I am still fairly new to the motherhood thing and I am far from being an expert but here are a few lessons I have learned:

  1. Patience does not come in pretty box with a bow. I used to think I was fairly patient. I didn’t mind waiting in line, or waiting for Rj to propose ( that’s whole other story). Then I had Zara and she threw me for a loop. Waiting for a toddler to do anything is like watching paint dry while wanting to gouge my eyes out. It takes us at least 2 hours to do anything! Simple tasks like eating or putting on pants ( for me and Zara) feel like I just ran a marathon.
  2. You will be outsmarted by a toddler. You think you’re smart. You read and you went to school. You had a 4.0 Gpa. Well, you might as well throw all of that out the window. No matter how smart you are you will lose the battle, negotiating with a toddler. They will take your bed, your last piece of chocolate, force you to watch another episode of Peppa, and in the end, you will have no idea how you got there.
  3. Baby LOVE is like no other. Remember when you met your hubby or spouse and you felt like you we’re falling off a cliff but it felt great! Or when you saw your dog for the first time and you looked into it’s eyes and could feel the love. We’ll take all that and multiply it by a billion! And it’s ok you might not feel this right away. But when you do you will know what I am talking about. It’s like your heart, your kidney and your brain ( think essential body organs you need to survive), live outside your body.

I would like to say that I wouldn’t change anything, but there are days that it feels too overwhelming and I just want to worry about what to wear, where to eat or where to go on vacation. I have learned that that’s ok too. After all, I am not superhuman, I am a mom.

Happy Mothers Day mommas! What are some lessons you have learned being a mom?

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The story behind The Accidental Mommy

I get asked quite frequently about the name of my blog: The Accidental Mommy.

So here is my story and no it’s not what you think it is.

My husband and I got married in June 2011 and leading up to the wedding and honeymoon ( we went to Italy and Greece in Sept 2011), I basically pictured us trying for kids right a way. My parents had started hinting pretty much the day after the wedding that they wanted grand kids. In fact my dad brought over a book on Fetus development one night (awkward I know! )

After our magical honeymoon, Rj and I decided to wait. We were young and wanted to travel and enjoy our life. We didn’t think a baby could fit in to our life at that time.

Fast forward to 2014. For the last year we were trying for a baby. My friends were having babies and my parents were asking me when I was going to give them ‘the good news’. I was asked numerous times at work if I ‘liked kids’, and perhaps the reason I wasn’t pregnant was because I did not like them.

The truth was, we tried and I saw many of my friend’s struggle with infertility. I was seeing a gynecologist to determine if everything was in working order.

And then we had an epiphany! Maybe we weren’t supposed to have kids. Maybe this was the universe telling us to make a change in our lives and prepare to spend summers in Tuscany sipping wine. And I was good with this. Rj and I saw how stressful it was to go through the fertility treatments and the toll it took on people’s marriages. We didn’t want that.

So we made changes, we moved to the city into a small townhouse, from the burbs, and I changed jobs to move up in my career. We were going out, drinking, and enjoying our lives. Part of me was happy with this free life, part of me wondered how long we could do this for.

One typical day, Rj and I were both off and we had spent the day with friends. I had polished off a bottle of wine and was feeling pretty content with my life. We had a Vegas trip booked in the summer with a couple friends and we were looking forward to it. We loved living in the city. Our place was smaller than we were used to but we had purged and sold all our furniture before moving and we loved the location. Everything was going great!

But I had been feeling off for the past couple of weeks. Headaches, nausea, cramps, and exhaustion. So I decided to take a pregnancy test for FUN! I was so sure it was going to be negative that I barely paid attention to it.

The test was POSITIVE! I screamed and yelled for RJ to come quickly. He rushed upstairs in a panic. I showed him the test. We re-read the instructions. We were in shock. Rj decided to rush out and get another pregnancy test. Three tests later, all of which were positive, we were finally convinced that we were PREGNANT!

Once Zara was born and I decided to start this blog, I couldn’t think of a better name than The Accidental Mommy, my accidental journey into motherhood.

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Why I write…

There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.

Ernest Hemingway

I grew up in a pretty traditional Indian household. We watched Bollywood movies and listened to Hindi songs. Dinner was ‘Dal Chawal’ or ‘Chicken Curry with Roti’ and ‘Kheer’ for desert.

And in typical Indian fashion, there were certain topics of conversation that were taboo. We didn’t talk about our feelings. It was ok to watch Bollywood movies where a guy would profess his love for a girl he just met and dance around a tree to prove his love for her but in our house we did not hear those words.

Feelings were left unsaid, unless you were angry. Then the yelling would let everyone know how you were feeling.

As every other teen girl does, I went through the normal growing pains: obsession with boy bands ( hello back street boys!), Michael J fox, Shahrukh Khan, and boys in general. I had what I know now is teen angst. I was rebelling in my own way, which in my house meant I was on the phone too long or read a harlequin romance novel without my parents knowing.

I had all these emotions and feelings inside, that I did not know how to get out. We moved a lot so I did not have close girl friends to confide in. So I started a diary and I started writing. Some times I wrote about my day, sometimes I wrote angry words, sometimes I wrote about what I aspired to be. I wrote because it felt good to put my feelings and thoughts on paper. It was like a cleansing ritual, I could put my day on paper and my heart felt lighter.

Fast forward to present day. I write because it is the only way I know how to express my feelings. I also write because I want my daughter to know how I was feeling when she came into my life. I am writing a history of my feelings and emotions while going through the growing pains of my motherhood journey.

Why do you write? How did you get started? I would love to hear about your writing journey.

My sister in law posted this quote and it inspired me to write about why I write.

She is a talented screenwriter, a busy mom of two, and runs a production company! #momboss

You can follow her writing journey @jody_rae_thompson on Instagram or her FB page.

PS: Follow me on Instagram @husna_theaccidentalmommy I take pictures of food, coffee art, my daughter and pretty Vancouver scenery.

Funny Baby Sayings

Funny babyToddlers say the funniest things! When Zara turned 2.5 years her language exploded. She started copying us and we realized that the time had come for us to clean up our act in front of her.

Regardless, she keeps things pretty entertaining. I am keeping things a little light in this post and sharing some funny things baby says that keeps us laughing. So take a read and laugh a little or a lot!

Happy baby at Starbucks

  • Momma my poop is too big.
  • F$$$k##g C$$k$$ck$r (Yup every time she drops something or falls. We have daddy to thank for this one!)
  • I am so cute!
  • Rj go get milk and bread. (This was my fault. Now she says this every night because she thinks that’s what daddy does when she goes to bed.)
  • Daddy you stinky. Stop parting! (Ok this one I might have taught her! )
  • What’s that noising?
  • Can I get a chicken nugget, large diet coke, and a coffee?
  • I want to make a baby. (She means make a baby using playdough. But still funny!!)

What does your kid say that keeps you laughing? Mine, hasn’t said any of this in public or at daycare yet. Has yours? I am waiting for the call from daycare when I have to explain the swearing. Tips on how to handle that?

I hope you have had a good laugh, because let’s be honest this world needs more funny baby sayings and less of everything else.

Not just another New Year’s Resolution : 2018 Positive Affirmations

New Year’s Eve is here! I can’t believe how fast this year has flown by. At the end of the year instead of making New Year’s resolutions, I like to reflect on the past year and create positive affirmations for the new year. Positive affirmation, is starting the new year with positive energy, and if you are a fan of the book, ‘The Secret’, you know what I mean.

Reflection on the past year

In the beginning of 2017, I focused all my energy on being the best of me, at work, as a mother and in life. Halfway throughout the year I realized that this is a big ask and I had to reprioritize. I had to slow down and take some breaks. I realized that to be the best of me I had to refocus my energy on what was the most important to me: Zara, my mental health and my family.

Regardless I do feel that 2017 has been very good to me. One of the biggest highlights for me was sharing this blog with everyone. I was not sure what to expect and literally had butterflies when I hit the share button on January 1st 2017. The response over the year has been very positive and I have learnt so much ( with so much more to learn!). To be selected as one of the Top 30 Vancouver Mom bloggers for 2017 was the cherry on top! It is an honor to be part of such a talented group of ladies. These mommas are humble, creative and supportive, and I am constantly learning from them. I am in awe to belong to this momma tribe.

So where do I go from here…

I don’t have a straight forward answer for this. I am going to continue writing and hopefully will partner with other bloggers and brands.

My positive affirmations for 2018 is to focus on opening my mind and to learn:

  • I will learn from my talented momma blogger friends.

  • I will learn from reading and practicing.

  • I will learn to take better pictures (hubby just gifted me a camera for Christmas! ).

  • I will learn who I am, and who I want to be. It is easy to hide behind social media and pretend to have a perfect life, but that’s not me and that’s not my blog.

  • I will not let self doubt creep in and stop me from learning and growing.

I want to thank everyone that is following me on this journey, because without your support I wouldn’t be here. What are your positive affirmations for 2018?

Also, what would you like to see more of on the blog? More recipes? More family friendly activities/venues? Tips? Letters? I would love to hear from you.

Happy New Year and see you in 2018!

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What I am thankful for this Thanksgiving…

Thanksgiving is an interesting holiday to me. I did not grow up with it and was introduced to it when I moved to Canada. Younger me never really paid much attention to it especially as my family did not celebrate it. As I got older, Thanksgiving was all about turkey and pumpkin pie with friends. 


Now that I am a mother and in my late 30s, I am intrigued by what the real significance of this holiday is. I find the concept of ‘giving thanks’ and ‘counting your blessings’ so very important now. I want to teach my daughter the meaning behind this holiday. So I have compiled a list of what I am thankful for this Thanksgiving:

1.  I am thankful for this country I live in. 
My parents could have moved anywhere in the world. I was a child so I did not have a say in where we were going to live. I am thankful that we came to Canada. With everything happening in the world recently, natural disasters and shooting rampages, I am thankful that I live in a country where this is not the norm. Canada is far from perfect, but I feel safe here. I don’t worry about being shot at while I am at concert or being stranded during a natural disaster. 

I am thankful I get to raise my daughter in this country.


2. My family

Families are not perfect. Every family has its ups and downs. I may not have a great relationship with my parents, but I am thankful for the strong relationships I do have with other members of my family: my brothers, my sister in laws and my friends.

I never thought I would meet and marry a man like my husband. We have had our ups and downs but in the end it has strengthened our relationship. 

I never thought I would become a mother. But I am so very thankful for the baby girl that has given me the privilege of being her momma. I get to wake up everyday to this beautiful smiling face, who thinks I am her whole world. I am thankful for the awe in my daughter’s eyes.

3. Roof over my head and food in my belly

I usually take this for granted. But there are so many people in this world that don’t have this. We live in one of the most expensive cities in the world and I am grateful that my family and I have a place to call home. I am grateful that we have the ability to buy the food we want, without thinking too much about it. 

So this thanksgiving, as we are drinking our wine, eating our turkey, stuffing and mashed potatoes, take some time to reflect, and be grateful. 

What are you thankful for this Thanksgiving?