Letter to J: Thank you for the hurtful comment 

Recently I had an unsettling comment made on a post of mine. The first time I saw it my heart sank and I felt terrible for the rest of the day. I felt like I was back in high school and a mean girl called me fat. I don’t mind if someone does not agree with what I write about and has an opinion about it. But let’s have a discussion like adults. This was not an opinion. This was meant to be a stab. This was meant to break me.

Initially I didn’t know how to deal with this. I contemplated not writing the blog. But then I thought about my daughter and how would I advice her to handle bullying. I would tell her to handle it with kindness, not anger. I don’t want her to give up because one person doesn’t like her work. So I decided to write this person a letter.

Dear J

Thank you for reading my blog. The comment you made was very hurtful. I try very hard to write meaningful content. I am a fairly new blogger and I started writing while going through PPD, when my baby was born. Initially I did not share it because I did not want to be judged and I was scared to have comments like yours. 

My blog is my safe place. It is where I share details of my life, and my family. I write about things that are important to me, and share tips and tricks that work for me. And I get to connect with people from all over the world that are going through similar situations. Is each piece a masterpiece? No I admit it is not. But I am not aiming for perfection. Because perfection is not real. I am working on being the best of me. 

I want you to know that your hurtful comment affected me deeply. But I still want to believe in the good in people. And perhaps you were having a bad day. And sometimes it makes you feel better when someone else feels worse. I forgive you. I hope that you read this and know that your comment makes me strive to work harder, not give up. And for that I want to thank you. 

Take care J.

Husna Thompson aka The Accidental Mommy

In my Kitchen : 15 min dinner: Grilled/Seared BC Albacore Tuna with Chickpeas salad

The sun is shining and BBQ season is in full swing! I have another quick dinner idea for busy moms (or anyone). 

I am a big fan of lightly seared BC Albacore Tuna. If I am at a restaurant and they have any seared tuna on the menu, that’s what I am ordering! 

So today I am going to share a quick recipe with you on how you too can make restaurant style seared tuna for less than half the price and no tipping required! 

Grilled/Seared BC Albacore Tuna

Ingredients

Tuna loin

Salt to taste

Pepper to taste

Lemon (optional)

I bought my Tuna loin frozen from Save-on-foods. It was about 0.4 kg ( this made 2 very big portions) and cost me about $11 (which is a steal! I have paid twice the price at a fish market.) It’s best to leave it frozen, until about 15 min before serving. Turn the grill on high while you defrost the tuna. You can also put the salad together while it’s defrosting. 
To defrost, put it in cold water for about 10 min. You want it thawed enough to cut it, with a knife. The piece is usually shaped like a triangle and you want to cut the pointy end off to flatten the piece. This helps with even cooking. Also the piece you cut off is the fatty piece and it is best cooked separately as it cooks faster than the rest of the tuna. Once you have cut the fatty piece off, you can portion out your pieces. Sprinkle with salt and pepper on both sides.

Ensure you have the grill on high. Put the Tuna on and grill for 1 to 2 min each side. You want the outside seared, but still pink in the middle. 

And that’s pretty much it! Take it off the grill and enjoy! You can add a squeeze of lemon for some extra zing. I served this with the Chickpeas, Cucumber and Olives salad. This salad was such a hit in my house last week that I decided to make it again! You can find the recipe here.

For baby: the outside of the tuna was pretty seared and cooked. I portioned  that out with the Chickpeas, Cucumber and Olives Salad. I don’t recommend feeding the little one raw or undercooked fish, unless this something that they have had before.

Happy Eating! 

The Woman behind the Camera

Since starting this blog I am always on the hunt for pictures to add to my posts. Recently while going through the pictures on my phone, I realized that there are hardly any pictures of me since I had Zara. It’s almost like the day Zara was born, I disappeared. Zara became the centre of my universe and I forgot that I am still here.

Before Zara was born, I loved dressing up and getting pictures taken. On vacations, I was one of those people that documented every outfit I wore. Pictures capture your memories and feelings in that moment. Every time I would come across a picture of me, I was reminded of what I was doing that day or how I felt.


So what happened after Zara was born? I asked myself that question. The first thing that popped into my mind is that Zara’s needs took over my own needs. And I felt it was important to capture Zara’s smiles, outfits, and just overall cuteness rather than mine. And I guess I did not want to remember how tired and exhausted I was. I did not want to remember how bad I felt about my milk boobs and wider than ever hips! I became the woman behind the camera. The woman in the back working tirelessly to keep Zara happy, and  her husband happy. 

You can’t do that for too long. It catches up with you. I keep hearing the term ‘self care’. And that’s what I was missing. Now I make a conscious effort to ensure I put time aside for self care. This blog is part of my ‘self care’ routine. I am also trying to get back in front of the camera. But it is not easy to do, once you have been behind the camera for so long. 

I stopped breastfeeding when Zara was 14 months and as you all know went back to work shortly after. Since then I have slowly noticed that I am rediscovering who I am. I love been Zara’s mommy but if I am going to honest, that isn’t enough. I am finding though that I am not the same as I was before Zara. I am learning to let go of that person. But it’s like losing your best friend. It takes a lot of effort to admit to yourself that this new person is here to stay. I have learnt that part of this crazy motherhood journey is acceptance and to I have to get out of my comfort zone and get back in front of the camera. 


The truth is it’s not just my body that changed after Zara, so did my soul. And THAT is worthy of being captured in a picture. 

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In my Kitchen: 15 min Chickpeas salad and Salmon Dinner 

As a working mom I am always on the look out for quick dinner ideas. With summer around the corner, I want to whip up meals that would be ready in 15 min or less. I am not sure where/when I saw these recipes, but it was a hit even with my 20 month old. 

Here it is:

Chickpeas, Cucumber and Olives salad

Ingredients 

  • Can of chickpeas (we used two cans)
  • One English cucumber
  • Kalamata  olives
  • Olive oil

And that’s pretty much it! Toss everything together including the vinegar the kalamata olives came in. This has tons of protein and fiber and perfect for little hands. We also had enough leftover for lunch the next day. 

BBQ Salmon

Ingredients

  • Salmon
  • Dijon mustard
  • Mrs Dash

I combined everything and wrapped in foil. 

On the BBQ or oven on 350 for 7 min and DONE. 

What’s your go to quick summer dinner? 

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4 Kinds of Friends Every New Momma Needs

When you have a baby your life is turned upside down. It doesn’t matter how prepared you are or prepared you feel, you will feel overwhelmed. Books do not prepare you for this. Birthing classes do not prepare you for this. If you are like me and have a hard time asking others for help, because you think it makes you look weak- Well you have to swallow your pride and DO IT! 



Here are 4 mom friends ( or non parent/mom friends) every new mom needs:

  1. The ‘I will come over and bring you groceries, cook for you, do laundry and hold the baby while you sleep’ friend: If you are lucky you have one of these friends. This friend comes over and does everything that you no longer have the energy to do. If you know someone who is having a baby soon or just had a baby, try to be ‘this’ friend. 
  2. The ‘I don’t care, you are coming out with me’ friend: As a new mom you need this friend. This friend will help you remember that you are more than just a milk machine. You are a woman who deserves to go out and have fun. 
  3.  The ‘Advice giving ‘ friend: Yes as a new mom you get a lot of advice. But when it comes from a trusted friend sometimes it is worth listening. Have this friend on speed dial for those late night texting sessions. One of the best pieces of advice I received was, ‘ Get a cleaner!’
  4. The friend(s) that do not judge you when you do not return texts or cancel plans: This is a big one. Having friends that understand that any down time you have is spent either sleeping or eating is a true friend.


    Moms you need your support system. You are not alone in this. Don’t be afraid to call your friends and ask for help. You are not weak because you asked, you are stronger because you realized you cannot do this on your own. 

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    To my friends: Thank you for sticking by me! 

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    Happy Mother’s Day Zara

    This is my second Mother’s Day. The first Mother’s Day was a blur. I was still in the process of learning to be comfortable as a ‘mother’. But this year I feel different. Zara is interacting with me and and wants her momma (most times it is still dada). It’s not just about, feeding, changing and sleeping. So for this Mother’s Day I wanted to write a letter to my daughter, because without her I won’t be here. 


    Dear Zara

    Happy 2nd Mother’s Day to me and you. The past year has had its ups and downs. We went through, teething, sleep regressions and sickness and lots of change. You started daycare. I went back to work. We went from spending everyday together to just Fridays and the weekends. It was a big change for you, but you adapted. Better than I did. 

    You are picking things up so fast. You can now count to 10 and are learning your ABCs. I am amazed at how quickly you have grown into this little human. 

    You teach me something new everyday. You have taught me to slow down and take joy in the simple things of life. You taught me to not take myself seriously all the time. You taught me to sing even if I don’t know the words or feel that I am terrible at it. You are such a happy baby, that regardless of what kind of day I have had, my heart lights up when I come home to you.

    You have encouraged me to follow my dreams and my heart. You have taught me that there is a silver lining on every cloud. All my life I searched for a purpose. My life before you, felt unfulfilled. You gave my life a purpose. Raising you is the single most important thing I will ever do in my life. And I am proud of that. I am proud to be called, ‘Zara’s mom’. 

    I want to say thank you to you Zara for making me a Mother and giving me the privilege to celebrate this day with you. Thank you for choosing me to be your momma. Happy Mother’s Day Zara bear.

    Love Momma  


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