Book Review: The Third Wife by Lisa Jewell

I read the Third Wife on the beach and it was a perfect beach read. The premise is a family hit by a tragedy, the accidental death of the third wife. But was it an accident? The unusual blended family looks happy on the surface, but of course, there are secrets.

I loved the way the book was written. The chapters go back and forth between present time and how the family is dealing with the death of Maya (the third wife) and flashbacks of Maya unraveling.

This was unlike my usual dark themes. There is a mystery, but the core of the novel is family and that there is no such thing as a perfect family.

If you are looking for a lighter read, I would definitely recommend The Third Wife.

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3 Important Lessons I have Learned as a Mother

Motherhood has drastically altered my life, my goals and my aspirations. Pre baby Husna worried about what to wear, where to eat, and where to go on vacation. Post-baby Husna, worries about all that and a thousand things more.

I am still fairly new to the motherhood thing and I am far from being an expert but here are a few lessons I have learned:

  1. Patience does not come in pretty box with a bow. I used to think I was fairly patient. I didn’t mind waiting in line, or waiting for Rj to propose ( that’s whole other story). Then I had Zara and she threw me for a loop. Waiting for a toddler to do anything is like watching paint dry while wanting to gouge my eyes out. It takes us at least 2 hours to do anything! Simple tasks like eating or putting on pants ( for me and Zara) feel like I just ran a marathon.
  2. You will be outsmarted by a toddler. You think you’re smart. You read and you went to school. You had a 4.0 Gpa. Well, you might as well throw all of that out the window. No matter how smart you are you will lose the battle, negotiating with a toddler. They will take your bed, your last piece of chocolate, force you to watch another episode of Peppa, and in the end, you will have no idea how you got there.
  3. Baby LOVE is like no other. Remember when you met your hubby or spouse and you felt like you we’re falling off a cliff but it felt great! Or when you saw your dog for the first time and you looked into it’s eyes and could feel the love. We’ll take all that and multiply it by a billion! And it’s ok you might not feel this right away. But when you do you will know what I am talking about. It’s like your heart, your kidney and your brain ( think essential body organs you need to survive), live outside your body.

I would like to say that I wouldn’t change anything, but there are days that it feels too overwhelming and I just want to worry about what to wear, where to eat or where to go on vacation. I have learned that that’s ok too. After all, I am not superhuman, I am a mom.

Happy Mothers Day mommas! What are some lessons you have learned being a mom?

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Why Vacations are good for your soul

When was the last time you laid in a hammock for two hours, sipping a mimosa reflecting on what you are doing with your life?

Are you happy? Do you feel fulfilled or are you going through the motions?

Vacations for me has always been the perfect time to contemplate and reflect on my life. You need to get rid of the distractions of daily life to truly do this.

When you aren’t thinking of dishes, laundry, and planning meals, your mind frees itself to think about what really matters: YOU

Listening to the waves crashing, the seagulls cackling, and the salty wind blowing through your hair, really opens up your heart and your soul. Close your eyes, think of things that make you happy, are you doing any of that in your ’real’ life?

The point here is once you can remove yourself from your daily burdens, the hope is your mind can look for deeper answers to your life’s journey. Because isn’t that what we are all on this earth for? To look for answers. To look for a purpose. To look for happiness.

This part is easier said than done. The even tougher part is making a plan to change things when you get back to reality.

And at the end of the day that might not happen. Change is hard and it’s scary. When you are lying in a hammock everything seems feasible. And that’s ok. When things get tough its time to book another vacation and reflect on what matters most.

When is your next trip?

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Why we vacation as a family and you should too

Traveling with a toddler can be challenging and trying at times. Listening isn’t something my toddler does best. And you never know how she is going to react on a plane ride (I will be writing a post with some tips), or if she is going to refuse to eat any food while we are away.

But I still think traveling as a family is important. It doesn’t matter if it is road trip for the long weekend, or a week long holiday outside the country. Here is why:

  1. Relax as a family– Vacation momma and Dadda are fun and relaxed. It’s good for your child to see you at your best, and you are at your best when you are not worrying about alarms, daycare drop-offs, and what to make for dinner. Stay out late, play in the sand longer and have that ice cream! Let your child see you throw out those rules.
  2. Make memories– Life is busy and day to day all you focus on is getting through the day to bedtime. Is their time to make memories? Not really. You try to cram that into the weekend and even then it’s tough. But on vacation that’s all you focus on- making memories as a family. When you are old and most likely cranky, you aren’t going to want to remember the dinners you cooked every night, but what you will remember is the time your daughter played in the pool all day with you. This is what makes life worthwhile. Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against the day to day crap, but I am not going to lie and tell you I enjoy it. Who does?
  3. Travel opens up the world for your child: They become aware that there is whole other world outside of their world. My hope is that this will take her out of her comfort zone, and challenge her to explore. I want my daughter to experience other cultures, languages, and food.
  4. Footage of embarrassing your child as an adult: Take tons of pictures so you can embarrass your child when they get older! Take that naked bum picture in the sand, to hopefully add to the wedding slideshow! Vacations are a great way to capture those embarrassing moments that your child doesn’t want you to take pictures of as an adult.

Do you travel as a family? I would love to hear your reasons for vacationing with kids and tips you have.

Happy Travels!

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Book Review: Look For Me

Look for Me by Lisa Gardner is the latest installment in the D.D. Warren series. I have been impatiently waiting for this book after reading Find Her. I thoroughly enjoyed Find Her, where we are introduced to Flora Dane, a survivor turned vigilante. Flora was kidnapped and held hostage by her captor for over a year, most of it trapped in a coffin-shaped wooden box. Hence Flora has demons, lots of them. She works with D.D Warren to find a missing college student in Find Her. In Look For me, the two unite again when a family of four is gunned down in their home and the sixteen-year-old daughter is missing.

If I compare the two, Find Her was a fast-paced thriller and kept me hooked from the first page. Look for Me starts out with a bang (literally), but I felt the story moved pretty slowly. Don’t get me wrong it is definitely a good read but I expected a page-turner. The story was not predictable but was also not unpredictable.

In terms of character development Flora Dane, is as broken as she was in Find Her. I would have expected her to move on and make amends. D.D Warren is a solid leading woman. She is a mother and is forever trying to find the balance between her work and life (I am sure all of us can relate).

Overall, this is as an easy read with enough twist and turns to keep me engaged. I love Lisa Gardner and I hope she will bring back Flora and D.D together in her next novel. If you are looking for a thriller with two leading women add this one to the list! Start with Find Her prior to reading Look For Me. Happy Reading!

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Healthy Family Expo Vancouver 2018

I have a 2.5-year-old daughter and one day she is going to turn into a woman. One day she is going to question the way her body looks and doubt her eating habits. One day she is going to go on a diet, or maybe multiple diets. One day she is going to feel guilty about eating that extra slice of cake. One day she is going to get on a scale and define her self-worth based on the number she sees.

My husband and I, as her parents have a responsibility to teach her that the number on the scale does not define her. We have a responsibility to instill healthy eating habits and instill a positive body image. We are human and eating that extra slice of cake is not going to hurt you if it is done in moderation.

You have to start them young as they say! So a couple of Sundays ago, we took her to the Healthy Family Expo. It was held at the Vancouver Convention center with 1000s of exhibitors promoting healthy living. There were samples galore but also space for kids to be kids. Movement is part of a healthy lifestyle and there was plenty of that in 35000 sqft space. There was a rock climbing wall set up for older kids as well as Spring free trampolines. The toddler area had a tumbling gym as well as a bouncy castle. Needless to say, Zara had a lot of fun jumping, playing and snacking on healthy snacks! She also got to see her favorite, Daniel Tiger, and Super Why CBC characters live in concert.

Maintaining a healthy lifestyle is always going to be something we are going to have to work on as a family. My hope is that events like the Healthy Family Expo will give help her move in the right direction. Have you been to the Expo? Are you planning on going next year?

Please note this is not a sponsored post. All opinions are solely based on my experience.

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Mom’s night out at Hotel Blu Vancouver

Self-care has become a household term recently, especially if you are a mom. Recently, I had a girlfriend come visit me from Montreal. Both of us are busy moms and desperately needed some time to be just ‘us’. We decided to book a night away for a staycation at Hotel Blu and get some much needed ‘girl time’. Neither of us had stayed here before but we loved the location and the reviews looked promising.

We checked in a little bit early and were pleasantly surprised how modern this hotel is.
Check-in was a breeze and the concierge desk texted me an hour later to ensure the room was to my liking. What service!!

The room was a good size with a king size bed, a Nespresso machine, and an automated concierge. We were on the third floor and had views of the city. Luckily it was a sunny day and we loved looking out to the hustle bustle of the city.

Here is video tour of the room:

The location of the hotel is perfect. We could walk to Gastown, Yaletown, and Downtown. Our first stop after check-in was drinks and oysters! Luckily the hotel is steps away from Fanny Bay Oyster bar. We were able to get in for happy hour and enjoyed some happy hour oysters and drinks. Next, we decided to head over to the BC Liquor store to grab a bottle of wine for the room while we got ready for a late dinner. With no kids to chase and diapers to change both of us were able to relax and put on makeup in peace.


We decided to head out to Chambar for dinner, again it was a short walk away. Both of us had never been to Chambar and let me tell you, dinner was quite an experience. Chambar is known for its brunch but the dinner menu was amazing. We had mussels and wine to start. I went for the lamb and my girlfriend tried the wild boar. We were there for almost 3 hours and the food was divine. The portions were large and we were stuffed. The service was amazing. We felt like queens for the night!

Checkout was at noon at Hotel Blu, so both of us slept in (the bed was super comfortable, like sleeping on a cloud !) and we took our time in the morning (something neither of us is used to). We wanted to spend the rest of the sunny day shopping and the hotel was kind enough to hold on to our bags until we were ready to go home. I loved Hotel Blu and would definitely be back.

This was the second time that I had been away from Zara without the hubby. And I have to say that it was nice to be just ‘me’ for a change. I ate, drank and shopped to my heart’s desire. I slept in (Hallelujah!!) !! Sometimes, that’s all you need, one night away to get some down time to feel refreshed and be a happier well-rested momma!

So mommas next time you feel like you need a vacation, just do a staycation and get to know ‘you’ again. What are your favorite spots in Vancouver for a staycation?

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